I absolutely cannot stand it when people try and pass the blame onto another person when it is CLEARLY their fault.
I have been disgusted recently with the blogposts and comments I’ve seen about women being responsible for keeping men from sinning or having impure thoughts, slut shaming girls for what they wear. It’s obnoxious and I guess now I’ve just been irritated at it enough to actually vent about it on my blog.
Why do I dress the way I do? well just so you know (in case you were going to try and answer that with some asinine response of “I’m trying to make all of the boys want me”) I don’t dress for anyone other than myself (Except on rare occasion when Colby requests a certain article of clothing) I have made my wardrobe something that I enjoy and am comfortable wearing, wether it be because I think it is cute, because it’s blazing hot outside or due to Canadian weather, I’m wearing 5 layers of clothing , it actually doesn’t even cross my mind what people think about me because everyone was born naked and it’s clothing, it’s just a body, everyone has one. Woop de doo. I don’t dress like a streetwalker, yet some people stick tack me as a slut because I don’t wear sleeves. Wow you sure caught me. I am SUCH a skank for putting my comfort over your ability to practice agency and tune stuff out. Round of applause.
In the summertime, I have not once wore my shorts or a tank top to catch any boys eye or to flaunt any part of my body to the general public. I wore it, because it was freaking hot outside and I wanted to be comfortable. It’s my responsibility to dress myself in the morning, and it’s everyone else’s responsibility to treat me like a human being. In the wintertime, I wear my boots and my BRIGHT pink pea coat, because I need to stay warm, not because I want to look like a rich broad. Why is everyone so obsessed with one another and what they are wearing? If it bothers you that much, stop freaking looking at it and dress the way you want to!
People seriously need to start putting the blame where it belongs, and stop justifying boys/mens actions because of a female. How is it ok for men to wear tank tops that reveal arms and often are cut low enough to see onto their midsection, but a woman can be slut shamed for doing the exact same thing? I see Colby walk around without a shirt on and my mind can wander into places that I would be embarrassed if others could read it. I’m a human being, I’ve made mistakes and there have been SO many occasions from past that I’ve looked at guys and now Colby and have taken things too far in my head and undressed them with my eyes and played out fantasies (K. Sorry TMI) But I do not EVER blame those thoughts on any one of those people. Because it was me. They have a body, they live every day, they wear what they wear, and my eyes, and my mind continued to look and think. I had full capacity to stop it, but most often I didn’t.
Now some may argue “Men are visually stimulated” ok yeah I know. But women are too. I don’t care if it’s not to the same degree it happens to both genders but you don’t see women blaming rape or having some naughty thoughts on men do you? No you don’t. If I was a dude, I’d be entirely offended that everyone continued to make it out like I was incapable of acting like a decent part of society. Maybe it’s nice to have an excuse all the time though for being what we like to call these days, an “asshole” or a nasty freaking pig.
Moral of the story, stop sticking your gigantic nose in other peoples lives, stop blaming your poor thoughts and behavior on people that probably wouldn’t want you looking at them anyway. It’s annoying and it seriously, needs to stop.